discipline, positive discipline, encouragement

No Shouting Challenge

Yell Free Challenge

Shouting is synonymous with parenting.

I shout, I am going to be honest with you- don’t gasp, I know I am a positive discipline educator but yes I am still not yell free!

Keeping it real, it has been a long process….. from when my first was born (nearly 10 years ago) positive discipline, attachment parenting, natural parenting or whichever name feels right for you, always felt right for our little family. Yet from feeling it right to actually doing it, well, let’s say there has been a huge difference!

I struggled with my 2 year old who at that point had a newborn sister to keep up to my ideals. I struggled despite reading and pouring on articles and books. I struggled even when I grasped what it all really meant and started to understand how to go about it. I struggle still now because it is not that I do not understand what I am meant to do, but because I get triggered and I am still learning about my triggers, healing these triggers and maybe more than anything taking time for self care.

I am happy with the progress I have made but I am still not yell free.  Occasionally I spank and that is hard to admit with you all. I feel guilty enough when I do it. I feel a very bad parent just saying this- me whom certified as a positive parenting educator. However, I choose to tell you because it is important to show you reality. It is important to see and understand that this is not a course you take and move forward. This is a path to follow, a journey to undertake, its discernment all the time till you find the perfect version of yourself for yourself and your family.

I am here to guide so together we become better.  I have challenged myself to be completely yell and spank free in 6 months. I feel ready now to really take the plunge and pull up the stakes. Are you ready to join me and start your own trans-formative parenting journey?

This challenge will be online and free to all who want to join. My only requirement is that you commit and are accountable. To interact online and keep each other up to date with our failings and most importantly our wins so we can encourage and uphold each other.

So I ask you again….are you ready to take the plunge?

breastfeeding, encouragement

World Breastfeeding Month

me & greg BFAs the month dedicated to breastfeeding trickles to an end, let us continue encouraging mothers, women, sisters, like us in their breastfeeding journey.

Breastfeeding comes with a lot of struggles simply because it is uniquely made for humans – yes you read right! The struggle for power money against something free and natural is very much real!

The most common and effective way for corporations to deal with the power women can muster (with unfortunately good results) is by setting us against each other.

So here I am, asking you all mamas to support the breastfeeding mother.  If she is tired, offer to take care of her to do list whilst she rests with her baby (unless she requests a break from said baby); If she is discouraged due to challenges, tell her stories of challenges you have overcome; challenges of needing to go dairy free, of needing to exclusively pump, of dealing with a reflux baby, of having insufficient milk….. If she is in a place where she needs to take a decision that she never ever wanted even to consider, hold her tight and let her pour out her disappointment, sadness, anger. Support her in whatever decision she needs to take that feels right for her family – even if you do not agree with that decision.

Ultimately, a mother – especially one that have just had a baby, is still trying to navigate so many new things in her life. Adjusting to so many new situations she never dreamed of, that unless you are forthcoming with support in whatever form she needs, she might not reach her breastfeeding goals. We are all responsible to help that woman, that sister, that mother to reach her goals. Forget your own baggage and give her wings to fly. Sometimes a smile of encouragement is all she will need.